Wednesday 14 December 2011

Pangsapuri Kayu Ara, Damansara untuk di jual (SOLD!!!)

- 3 unit untuk di jual

- Tingkat 7 - renovate (plaster ceiling, kabinet dapur)
                  - rumah sedia untuk di duduki
                  - Harga RM100,000

- Tingkat 8  - Basic unit
                   - rumah sedia untuk di duduki
                   - Harga RM100,000

- Tingkat 12 - Basic unit
                    - Penyewa sedia ada
                    - Harga RM90,000

Teres 2 tgkt, bandar baru uda, johor bharu untuk di jual (SOLD!!!!)

Beli...beli...beli....murah...murah....

- Rumah teres 2 tingkat (end lot) untuk di jual.
- Ruang tamu & dapur telah di extend.
- 4 bilik tidur, 3 bilik air
- Jalan Padi Ria 2
- Harga RM285,000

Sunday 11 December 2011

Melake....kami datang lagiiiiiiiii

Dec 10, 2011 - wedding Besah...coursemate masa blaja dulu... Junior 2 thn tp dah sampai jodoh dah...Alhamdullilah (sob..sob..sob)...
3 dara pingitan berarak la ke Jasin Melaka....
selain memenuhi jemputan, ini salah satu usaha gak ni...mana tau nk jumpa jodoh kat cni...
tp nampaknye seru lum nk sampai...xpe usaha lagiii....

gerak ke melaka lam kul 10.30 pg....campur tolak makan jam ngan buah langsat sampai la tpt yg di tuju lam kul 1 ptg gak la....

Melantak, amek gambo, borak2 sat...kitaorg pun mula la gerak ke bando melake....time ni xmkn buah langsat dah...lebuh AMJ membawa kami ke jalan yg benar.....

pepehal pun kita smayang doluuuu....singgah smayang kat Masjid selat melaka...santek masjid ni....bersih, nyaman & damai je.....senibina yg simple tp menarik...tp kedudukannya agak jauh ke dalam....

Masjid Selat Melaka

Lepas smayang, gerak g bando - Alhamdullillah, senang lak dapat parking...pot baek punyeee.....sblh tong sampah....
Sasaran petama mestila cendol.....serbuuuuuuu......
punya la ramai...mmg meja semua full la...so, kitaorg tapau je la...

duk la layan cendol kat bangku tepi sg melaka, smbl lambai2 tgn kat cruise yg lalu lalang....rasa cam retis lak bila depa duk amek gamba 3 dara pingitan berbaju kurung mkn cendol....
sementara nk abeskan masa nk 2gu kul 6 sblm ke jonker street...kitaorg pun menyusuri la laluan pejalan kaki sepjg sg melaka tu....santekk...kdg2 angin sepoi2 bahasa datang menyapa tp most of the time terik mentari la yg menerpa...hadeiiiiii....berpeluh sampe ke kaki....

jauh gak kitaorg jalan....memandangkan ni dah kali ke patblas dtg melaka so tak larat dah nk g naik cruise, beca, taming sari....so jln2 kat sg melaka ni je yg xpenah buat lg....
bila dah patah balik nk menghala ke jonker street kitaorg singgah makan laksa kat satu cafe kat tepi sg ni....rasanya tis is the only malay cafe yg i jumpa sepjg sg tu....sodap bangat laksanya....rugi lak order 1 mangkuk je utk kongsi 3 org...xpe la...sharing is caring...jimaaatttttt

tepat jam 6 kitaorg pun bergegas la ke jonker walk...time tu peniaga dah stat bukak gerai dah...org pun dah agak2 nk ramai ...dah half way kat jonker walk tu terasa cam kat guangzhao lak...tp feel sbg tourist xbrape nk smpi sbb berbaju kurung....m'ingatkan diri yg masih lg di mesia....



Mcm-mcm ada kat sini....baju, sun glass, sliper, hbags, mknan xyah cite la...mmg besepah2 tp satu pun xleh nk telan...haraaammmmm

regenye pulak ada yg murah & ada yg mahal....yg mahal tu mgkn target customer dorang foreign tourist kot, local tourist mcm kami ni mmg xdapek le....
Agak2 dah cover satu jonker street tu kitaorg pun mula la bergerak keluar....

sasaran seterusnya ialah restoran yong tau foo d cheng, alor gajah...
Setiap kali datang melaka mmg mesti nk dtg mkn cni...tp setiap kali tu gak la mcm2 halangan la yg terpaksa di tempuhi...
tp kali ni lg disaster...penat ukur jalan hampir sejam xjumpa2 gak....akhirnya kami pulang kepangkal jln.....ikut je la signboard leburaya PLUS Kolumpo....xde rejki nk mkn yong tau foo sedap....

Kitaorg singgah makan d R&R seremban....mknannya amatla mengecewakan...even time tu perut dah tahap terdesak...tp perut still gak reject mknan kat sana....

Lam kul 11 kami selamat sampai umh...perjalanan yang memenatkan tp menyenangkan....di temani gerhana bulan....

Last but not least - Selamat Pengantin Baru Besah & hubby...semoga sentiasa di bawah Rahmat Allah...you two make a great couple... ;)

Tuesday 6 December 2011

Tipssss.....10 ways to avoid marrying the wrong person....(Good Guidance)

Anda bosan? xtau apa nak buat? Xde boyfren? Lapangkan dada anda & baca artikel di bawah..

I find it interesting & make sense...good guidance for those who are still searching....

Artikel panjang bejela? Xlarat nk baca? baca stage by stage....artikel ni xlari kemana2....

There is a right way and a wrong way to get to know someone for marriage.  The wrong way is to get caught up in the excitement and nuance of a budding relationship and in the process completely forget to ask the critical questions that help determine compatibility.  One of the biggest mistakes that many young Muslims make is rushing into marriage without properly and thoroughly getting to know someone.  A common myth is that the duration of a courtship is an accurate enough measure of how compatible two people are.  The logic follows that the longer you speak with someone, the better you will know them.  The problem with that premise is that no consideration is given to how that time is spent. Increasingly, young Muslim couples are engaging in “halal dating,” which is basically socializing with each other in the company of friends and/or family. This includes going out to dinner, watching a movie, playing some sport or other leisure activity, etc.  Depending on the family or culture, conversations are either minimal & chaperoned or worse, unrestricted and unsupervised. When you consider these  limitations it makes one wonder when exactly, if ever at all, would the critical conversations take place?  Unfortunately, for many, the answer is never and they live to suffer the consequences.  If you or someone you know is in the “getting to know someone” phase,  the following guide offers advice on exactly what to look for and avoid:
1) Do Not Marry Potential:  Oftentimes men consider marrying a woman hoping she never changes while a woman considers marrying a man she hopes she can change.  This is the wrong approach on both accounts.  Don’t assume that you can change a person after you’re married to them or that they will reach their potential.  There is no guarantee, after all, that those changes will be for the better. In fact, it’s often for the worse. If you can’t accept someone or imagine living with them as they are then don’t marry them.  These differences can include a number of things such as ideological or practical differences in religion, habits, hygiene, communication skills, etc.
2) Choose Character over Chemistry:  While chemistry and attraction are no doubt important, character precedes them both. A famous quote follows, “Chemistry ignites the fire, but character keeps it burning.” The idea of falling “in love” should never be the sole reason for marrying someone; it is very easy to confuse infatuation and lust for love.  The most important character traits to look for include humility, kindness, responsibility, & happiness. Here’s a breakdown of each trait:
  • Humility: The humble person never makes demands of people but rather always does right by them. They put their values and principles above convenience and comfort.  They are slow to anger, are modest, and avoid materialism.
  • Kindness: The kind person is the quintessential giver. They seek to please and minimize the pain of others. To know if a person is a giver, observe how they treat their family, siblings, and parents. Do they have gratitude towards their parents for all that they’ve done for them? If not, then know that they will never appreciate what you do for them. How do they treat people they don’t have to be kind towards (i.e. waiters, sales associates, employees, etc)? How do they spend their money?  How do they deal with anger; their own anger and their reaction to someone else’s anger?
  • Responsibility: A responsible person has stability in their finances, relationships, job, and character.  You can you rely on this person and trust what they say.
  • Happiness: A happy person is content with their portion in life. They feel good about themselves and good about their life. They focus on what they have rather than on what they don’t have.  They very rarely complain.
3) Do Not Neglect The  Emotional Needs of Your Partner:  Both men and women have emotional needs and in order for a partnership to be successful those needs must be mutually met. The fundamental emotional need of a woman is to be loved.  The fundamental emotional need of a man is to be respected and appreciated.  To make a woman feel loved give her the three AAAs:  Attention, Affection, & Appreciation.  To make a man feel loved give him the three RRRs:  Respect, Reassurance, & Relief.  It is the obligation of each partner to make sure the other is happy and this extends to intimacy as well. As long as each partner is fulfilled by the emotional needs of the other, the intimate relationship will thrive.  When a man takes seriously the emotional needs of his wife she will feel more encouraged to fulfill his sexual desires. Likewise, when a woman takes seriously the emotional needs of her husband he will feel more encouraged to give her the affection, love and appreciation she wants from him. Working together in this way encourages both giving and receiving.
4) Avoid Opposing Life Plans:  In marriage you can either grow together or grow apart. Sharing a common purpose in life will increase the chance that you will grow together.
  • You must know what the person is into. In other words, what are they ultimately passionate about?  Then ask yourself, “Do I respect this passion?” “Do I respect what they are into?”
  • The more specifically you define yourself, i.e., your values, your beliefs, your lifestyle, the better chance you have of finding your life partner, your soul mate, the one you are most compatible with.
  • Remember, before you decide who to take along on a trip, you should first figure out your destination.
5) Avoid Pre-Marital Sexual/Physical Activity:
  • Recognize that there is incredible wisdom in why God has ordered us to refrain from intimacy before marriage; they are to prevent great harms as well as to keep sacred what is the most blessed part of a relationship between a man and a woman.
  • Aside from the obvious spiritual consequences, when a relationship gets physical before its time, important issues like character, life philosophy, and compatibility go to the wayside. Consequently, everything is romanticized and it becomes difficult to even remember the important issues let alone talk about them.
  • Intellectual commitment must be established before emotional or sexual commitment.
6) Avoid Lack of Emotional Connection:  There are four questions that you must answer YES to:
  • Do I respect and admire this person?  What specifically do I respect and admire about this person?
  • Do I trust this person?  Can I rely on them?  Do I trust their judgment?  Do I trust their word? Can I believe what they say?
  • Do I feel Safe?  Do I feel emotionally safe with this person?  Can I be vulnerable?  Can I be myself?  Can I be open?  Can I express myself?
  • Do I feel calm and at peace with this person?
If the answer is “I don’t know, I’m not sure, etc.” keep evaluating until you know for sure and truly understand how you feel. If you don’t feel safe now, you won’t feel safe when you are married.  If you don’t trust now, this won’t change when you are married!
7) Pay Attention to Your Own Emotional Anxiety: Choosing someone you don’t feel safe with emotionally is not a good recipe for a long-lasting and loving marriage.  Feeling emotionally safe is the foundation of a strong and healthy marriage.  When you don’t feel safe, you can’t express your feelings and opinions.  Learn how to identify whether you are in an abusive relationship.  If you feel you always have to monitor what you say, if you are with someone and you feel you can’t really express yourself and are always walking on eggshells, then it’s very likely you are in an abusive relationship.  Look for the following things:
  • Controlling behavior: This includes controlling the way you act, the way you think, the way you dress, the way you wear your hair/hijab and the way you spend your time.  Know the difference between suggestions and demands.  Demands are an expression of control and if the demands are implied, than you must do it or there will be consequences. All of these are clear indications of abusive personalities.
  • Anger issues: This is someone who raises their voice on a regular basis, who is angry, gets angry at you, uses anger against you, uses put downs, and curses at you, etc.  You don’t have to put up with this type of treatment.  Many people who tolerate this behavior usually come from abusive backgrounds.  If this is the case with you or someone you know, get help right away.  Deal with those issues before getting married or before even thinking about getting married.
Beware of Lack of Openness In Your Partner:  Many couples make the mistake of not putting everything on the table for discussion from the onset.  Ask yourself, “What do I need to know to be absolutely certain I want to marry this person?” “What bothers me about this person or the relationship?”  It’s very important to identify what’s bothering you, things that concern you, and things you are afraid to bring up for discussion. Then you must have an honest discussion about them. This is a great way to test the strength of your relationship. Bringing up issues when there’s conflict is a great opportunity to really evaluate how well you communicate, negotiate, and work together as a team.  When people get into power struggles and blame each other, it’s an indication they don’t work well as a team.  Also important is being vulnerable around each other. Ask deep questions of each other and see how your partner responds.  How do they handle it?  Are they defensive?  Do they attack?  Do they withdraw?  Do they get annoyed?  Do they blame you?  Do they ignore it?  Do they hide or rationalize it?  Don’t just listen to what they say but watch for how they say it!
9) Beware of Avoiding Personal Responsibility: It’s very important to remember no one else is responsible for your happiness. Many people make the mistake of thinking someone else will fulfill them and make their life better and that’s their reason for getting married.  People fail to realize that if they are unhappy as a single person, they will continue to be miserable when they are married.  If you are currently not happy with yourself, don’t like yourself, don’t like the direction your life is going now, it’s important to take responsibility for that now and work on improving those areas of your life before considering marriage.  Don’t bring these issues into your marriage and hope your partner will fix them.
10) Watch Out For Lack of Emotional Health and Availability In Your Potential Partner:  Many people choose partners that are not emotionally healthy or available. One huge problem is when a partner is unable to balance the emotional ties to family members, the marriage ends up having 3 (or more) people in it rather than two. An example of this would be if a man is overly dependent on his mother and brings that relationship into the marriage; this is no doubt a recipe for disaster.  Also important to consider are the following:
  • Avoid people who are emotionally empty inside.  These include people who don’t like themselves because they lack the ability to be emotionally available. They are always preoccupied with their deficiencies, insecurities, and negative thoughts.  They are in a perpetual fight with depression, never feel good, are isolated, are critical and judgmental; tend to not have any close friends, and often distrust people or are afraid of them.  Another clear indication about them is they always feel their needs are not getting met; they have a sense of entitlement and feel angry when they feel people should take care of them and they don’t.  They feel burdened by other people’s needs and feel resentment towards them.  These people can not be emotionally available to build healthy relationships.
  • Addictions can also limit the level of availability of the partner to build a strong emotional relationship.  Never marry an addict.  Addictions are not limited to drugs and alcohol.  They can be about addictions and dependency on work, internet, hobbies, sports, shopping, money, power, status, materialism, etc.  When someone has an addiction, they will not and can not be emotionally available to develop an intimate relationship with you!
Additional Points to Consider:
  1. The fact is no one looks 25 forever.  Ultimately, we love the person we marry for more than their appearance.  When we get to know someone we love and admire, we’ll love them for their inner beauty and overall essence.
  2. Once we find someone, we consciously or subconsciously want so badly for it all to work that we decide not to question or see what is clearly in front of our eyes: they were rude to the waiter, speaks ill of others, is rude to you, etc.  We don’t stop to ask, “What does all of this mean about their character?”
  3. Never separate someone from their family, background, education, belief system, etc.  Asking clear questions can clarify this.  Ask questions like, “What does it mean to have a simple lifestyle?” “What are your expectations of marriage?”  “How would you help around the house?” Compare your definition with theirs.
  4. Be flexible.  Be open-minded!
  5. Giving in a happy marriage should not be confused with martyrdom.  It should be about taking pleasure and seeing the other person as happy because of your connection with them.
  6. Morality and spirituality are the qualities that truly define someone in addition to beauty, money, and health.  The morally upright and spiritual person will stand by your side during adversity and hardship.  If someone isn’t God-conscience and doesn’t take themselves into account with God then why should you expect them to fulfill their rights owed to you? The ideal partner is someone who considers giving a gain and not causing a loss.  Having a mutual and shared spiritual relationship will foster a successful marriage.  Furthermore, a successful marriage is one that keeps the laws of family purity which require a certain degree of self-control and self-discipline, as well as the belief that the physical side of the relationship includes the spiritual and emotional side as well.  Finding commonality and balance between the spiritual and emotional aspects of a relationship is a strong key to a healthy and thriving marriage.~N.H & H.M
 copy paste from : http://muslimvillage.com/2011/10/27/10-ways-to-avoid-marrying-the-wrong-person/#.Tt0VIzjhqld.facebook

Monday 5 December 2011

Movie Marathon

Hari ahad ni movie marathon lak...from breaking dawn to ombak rindu

Kul 930 pg lg dah kuar...gara2 takut tiket abes...hasil penat lelah berjaya gak m'gerrabbb
tiket breaking dawn kul 11 am & ombak rindu kul 2 pm...
the best part...untuk ombak rindu kitaorg dapat tiket GRAND STAND lgg....
deeepaaan skali u....semoga ada hikmah di sebaliknye...huhuhu

Film review from my blue eye's view ;

Breaking dawn
- mmm....rasa xcukup...mcm nak lagiii nak lagiiii
- semua watak dijiwai ngan sgt baek...edward, bella, jacob, carlisle, esme....
- byk scene yg sentap (tacing abes) esp bila invole Bella ngan Chief Swan
- tp start from part bella pregnant sampai abes tu mcm loose ckit
  (byk dropout compared to novel)
- overall i loikeeeee...i bg beribu bintang


Ombak rindu
- yg ni dramatik ckit....movie stat kul 2pm...kul 2.15 skrin still xpasang gazet ape2 lg
- jeng jeng jeng....upe2nye....aaron & maya nk datangggg (inilah hikmah duk depan skali)
- ade la sesi teka teki & distribute goodie bag (segoodie goodienye), buku ombak rindu,
   T-shirt & pebenda lg ntah...one of my fren dapat goodie bag...ok la tew...
- for me, maya santek...kecik molek je orgnye...kat lua jauh lg santek dr lam tb
- aaron lak...igtkan badan cam body builder...tp xla besa mana pun ...
   besar di atas kecik di bawah...huhuhu...tp mmg ganteng la...tidak syak lg....
- bila movie stat, bekoba2 ni...tp lps 1 jam rasa mcm xde pe dah yg nk look fwd dlm cite ni
- rasa mcm bila nk abes ni...bosan gile dah ni....
- boleh dgr bro kat blakang komplen kat awek dia yg cite ni membosankan...i feel u bro!!!
- aaron punya 'ayaq mata' lam cite ni pun nmpk 'eye mo' sgt...
- duk dkt sgt ngan skrin smpi xleh nak absorb....huhuhu
- lega rasa bila yg jaga panggung tu bukak pintu...baru rasa leh napas....
- tp after the movie end, i can hear few hands clap...maksudnya some people mmg satisfied & enjoying the movie very the much....
- bila baca review kat ombak rindu homepage pun majoritynya mmg berpuas hati ngan cite ni...
- apsal aku xfeel mcm korang feel ek...hadeiiii membazir patblas hengget duit tiket....

"redha itu ikhlas, pasrah itu menyerah"

Check tis outttttt!!!!!!!!!!!


Overall...hari yg pjg...pas tgk movie berarak lak g jusco cheras...time tu rasa cam rindu sgt kat umah (kesiankan...org lain rindu pakwe...aku rindu umh) xsaba nk blk mandi & cuci rambut....kepala ni dah rasa beso smcm je....
it's been a loooggggg day.......

Saturday 3 December 2011

xtvt ujung minggu dara-dara pingitan

Ujung minggu means 2 days off = 48 hours = 2880 minit...uishh lama tu kalo duk melangut je kat umah....

JOOOOMMMMMM....abeskan sepesen duaa.....

Pagi :
- jogging kat tasik ttwangsa
- motif : menjaga 'kekentalan' badan
- nawaitu : jogging-jogging cari jodoh (kot2 la tasik ttwangsa menjadi saksi chenta kami)
- bekpes : cari pot yg jd pot 'abe-abe' yg berpotential biasanya mamak la kot,
                kalau nak UP ckit g la kopitiam, nk UP lg g la coffee hse ke
                (ini kalo ade hati nk blanje kawen smpi patblas jute)



Tengahari :
- Minggu ni kita layan manicure & padicure
  (mani utk kaki ke tangan??? Lu pikir la sendiri...sbb wa pun pu cer taw)
- Jangan membazir....setiap biji nasik tu, ibarat setitik peluh petani...so groupon here i comeeeee.
- nama treatment yg i beli ni :
  Express manicure + Classic Pedicure with Cuticle Treatment + 
  Lavender Gel Foot scrub + Cucumber Foot Massage.
- Konon-kononnya rege asal RM63 tp lepas 52% diskaun jadik la RM30 (GERRANDkan diskaunnye)
- Lokasinya di : Nail Paradize, The strand@Kota Damansara (leh tahan kerek gak tpt ni,
  siap ckp lewat 10min consider batal apptmnt...cit poohhh....sib baek dah bayo..
  kalau x kira kansel je la)
- Masalah beli groupon ni...lps 2 bln baru leh buat apptmnt...asyik full je memanjang....
   silap2 burn je la voucer tu....dok g2 titie??? kui3
- ni pirst time nk buat treatment ni...nerbes lak rasanya....kot2 xdapat menahan kegelian...
  lebey2 lg tang kaki...
- Apa jadi di Nail Paradize :
  - we all sampai 15min late (ikut jam kami, ikut jam depa 25min)
  - so, bila smpi terus staff kat c2 ckp dorang xkan buat scrub & massage
    sbb dah lewat...time tu mcm blur jap..duk igt mesti dah ade customer lain yg menunggu..
  - lagi kelam kelabut bila one of my fren lupa bwk voucher, dorang insist xnk bg my fren tu
    buat treatment padahal dorang dah ada list nama & voucer no my fren tu
    (dasar penipu beso)
  - lepas 20 minit...SIAP!!...i siap tanya dia..is tis all???
  - RM30 utk potongkan kuku jer???? WTH????? dah la tu..potong s'diri lg santekk
  - punya la xpuas hati ngan serbis yg mcm gampang...xmenyempat2 lg kitaorg duk buat
    ulasan selari kat dpn outlet dorang...ada la lam 30 min duk kat dpn tu...
  - yg lg xley blah, dlm 30 min duk kat dpn kedai tu...xde sekor customer pun yg masuk...
  - Insha allah dlm 3 bln lagi tutup kedai la depa tu...
  - xabes kat c2 je..i canang lak pasal serbis depa ni kat tpt facial yg i pegi lps tu,
    kebetulan lak tpt facial tu distance by 1 block jer from their place..
    hambekkkk ...kak temah memang xsayang mulut...
  - pas2 i dah anta email komplen kat groupon...dgn harapan dorang xdpt claim
    utk voucer my fren tu....muahahahah (gelak setan)

BIG BIG NO to NAILS PARADIZE!!!!!



 Petang ckit (Jooommm facial..lupekan yg lain) :
- Kita layan facial lak.....costly??? tiiidaaakkk lggg dgn groupon. Tima kaseh gaviscon...
- Nama facial ni :
  2.5 hour Beauty package: Facial + Back Exfoliation and Mask + eye and Neck Treatment.
- yang ni diskaunnya lagi GERRANDD.....rege asal RM652 (leh caye ke?) lps diskaun 94%
  jadi le RM38 (kekdahnyeeee)
- Lokasi : Quien De Sera, The strand@Kota Damasara.
- Time beli voucer ni dah cedik dah ckit...lps beli terus call for apptmnt...
   so, xde la kena Q smpi 2 bln...lam sebln stgh cam tu je....huhuhu
- ini dah 3rd time pegi facial pakai voucer groupon...tp facial kali ni plg berbaloi-baloi....
- w/pun regenye RM38 tp serbisnye worth RM188 (harga sebenar..bukan 652 yea..)
- siap dapat 1 lg treatment ngan rege yg sama...apa lg i ngap je la....ko ade?


Penutup hari sabtu :
- tejelepok depan tv sambil tgn kat atas dahi...
- tambah tolak tambah tolak...smpi ujung bulan ni kena tapau nasik kat gerai blakang 
  lim foo yong je la jawabnye...
-simpan je la cite2 nak makan pizza, kepsi, carry fwd bulan depan lak...huhuhu




Thursday 1 December 2011

Orang ikhlas itu tertindas?????

Artikel ni di ambil dari email berantai...dalam banyak2 email berantai, email ni plg melekat di hati...

"Sharing is Caring"

 Layaaannnnnnnnnnn.......................Zaaaassssssssssssssss

Jika kita memberi kebaikan kepada seseorang, kebaikan itu akan dibalas walaupun yang membalasnya bukan orang yang kita berikan kebaikan itu. Hakikat ini mengingatkan saya kepada satu perbualan yang berlaku sewaktu saya mengendalikan program latihan beberapa tahun lalu di sebuah organisasi.

“Saya tidak mempunyai apa-apa harapan lagi pada organisasi ini,” kata seorang kakak berterus-terang.
“Mengapa?” balas saya.
“Organisasi ini dipenuhi oleh kaki bodek dan kaki ampu. Saya terseksa bekerja secara ikhlas di sini. Tidak pernah dihargai, tidak ada ganjaran yang wajar. Saya bukannya orang yang bermuka-muka. Tak pandai saya nak ampu-ampu orang atas, Fokus saya kepada kerja sahaja.”

Kakak itu sebenarnya adalah peserta program yang paling senior. Telah berpuluh tahun bekerja dalam organisasi tersebut. Itu adalah kali terakhir dia mengikuti program latihan. Enam bulan lagi dia akan bersara. Kesempatan yang diberikan kepadanya dalam sesi memperkenalkan diri itu telah digunakannya sepenuhnya untuk meluahkan rasa kecewa dan marahnya sepanjang berkhidmat di situ. Sungguh, dia kecewa sekali. Siapa tidak marah, jika bekerja secara ikhlas dan gigih tetapi tidak pernah dinaikkan pangkat atau mendapat kenaikan gaji?

Sewaktu rehat, sambil minum-minum dan berbual santai saya bertanya kepadanya, “kakak punya berapa orang anak?”
Sengaja saya bertanya soal-soal “di luar kotak” agar ketegangan dalam sesi sebelumnya dapat diredakan.
“Oh ramai encik…”
“Bagaimana dengan anak-anak kakak?”

Wah, saya lihat dia begitu ceria apabila mula menceritakan tentang anak-anaknya. Boleh dikatakan semua anak-anaknya berjaya dalam profesion masing-masing. Ada yang menjadi doktor, jurutera, pensyarah dan sebagainya. Malah seorang anaknya telah menjadi hafiz.
“Kakak, boleh saya bertanya?”
“Tanyalah encik…” ujar kakak itu sambil tersenyum. Mendung di wajahnya sudah berlalu. Dia begitu teruja bila bercerita tentang anak-anaknya. Memang, semua anak-anaknya menjadi.

“Jika kakak diberi pilihan, antara anak-anak yang “menjadi” dengan naik gaji, mana yang kakak pilih?”
Belum sempat dia menjawab, saya bertanya lagi, “antara kakak naik pangkat dengan anak-anak berjaya dalam karier mereka, mana yang kakak pilih?”

Dengan cepat kakak itu menjawab, “hati ibu encik… tentulah saya pilih anak-anak saya menjadi walaupun tidak naik gaji atau dapat pangkat. Anak-anak adalah harta kita yang paling berharga!”

Saya tersenyum. Hati ibu, begitulah semestinya.
“Kakak, sebenarnya keikhlasan dan kegigihan kakak bekerja dalam organisasi ini telah mendapat ganjaran…” kata saya perlahan. Hampir berbisik.
“Maksud encik?”
“Allah telah membalas dengan ganjaran yang lebih baik dan lebih kakak lebih sukai. Bila kakak ikhlas bekerja dalam organisasi ini, Allah berikan kepada kakak anak-anak yang menjadi.”
“Tidak pernah saya terfikir begitu encik…”

“Allah Maha Berkuasa. Ada kalanya takdir dan perbuatan-Nya terlalu misteri dan rahsia untuk dijangkau oleh pemikiran kita. Tetapi yakinlah what you give, you get back. Itu hukum sunatullah dalam hubungan sesama manusia. Kebaikan yang kita buat akan kembali kepada kita. Yakinlah.”
“Walaupun bukan daripada seseorang atau sesuatu pihak yang kita berikan kebaikan itu?”
“Maksud kakak?”

“Macam ni, saya buat kebaikan kepada organisasi tempat saya bekerja, tapi Allah berikan kebaikan kepada keluarga. Pembalasan Allah bukan di tempat saya bekerja, sebaliknya diberikan dalam keluarga saya. Begitukah encik?”
“Itulah yang saya katakan tadi, takdir Allah kekadang terlalu misteri. Tetapi ketetapannya mutlak dan muktamad, siapa yang memberi kebaikan akan dibalas dengan kebaikan. Dalam istilah biasa itu dipanggil golden rule!”

Kakak itu termenung. Mungkin memikirkan pertalian dan kaitan antara apa yang berlaku dalam organisasi dengan familinya.
“Metafora atau analoginya begini. Katalah kita sedang memandu di satu jalan yang mempunyai dua atau tiga lorong. Penuh sesak. Tiba-tiba sebuah kereta yang tersalah lorong di sebelah memberi isyarat untuk masuk ke lorong kita. Kerana simpati melihat dia terkial-kial memberi isyarat, kita pun beralah, lalu memberi laluan untuk kereta itu masuk di hadapan kita…”

Saya berhenti seketika mengambil nafas sambil mencari reaksi. Saya lihat kakak itu mendengar penuh minat. Dia meneliti metafora yang saya sampaikan dengan begitu teliti.
“Kemudian kita terus memandu ke hadapan. Mungkin sejam kemudian atau setelah berpuluh-puluh kilometer, tiba-tiba kita pula yang tersalah lorong. Kita pula yang memberi lampu isyarat untuk masuk ke lorong sebelah. Soalnya logikkah kalau kita mengharapkan kereta yang kita bantu sebelumnya memberi laluan untuk kita?”

Kakak itu tersenyum dan berkata, “tak logik encik. Kereta yang kita bantu tadi entah ke mana perginya.”
“Tapi ada tak kereta lain yang simpati dan memberi laluan untuk kita?’
“Pasti ada! Insya-Allah.”
“Ya, begitulah. Padahal kereta itu tidak pernah sekali pun kita tolong. Tetapi Allahlah yang menggerakkan hati pemandunya untuk memberi laluan kepada kita. Orang yang kita beri kebaikan, tidak ada di situ untuk membalas kebaikan kita… Tetapi Allah menggerakkan hati orang lain, yang tidak pernah merasa kebaikan kita untuk membalas kebaikan kita tadi.”

“Subhanallah!”
“Begitu dalam litar di jalan raya dan begitu jualah litar dalam kehidupan manusia. Kita buat baik kepada A, tetapi kerap kali bukan A yang membalas kebaikan kita tetapi B atau C atau D atau lain-lainnya yang membalasnya. Inilah hakikat yang berlaku dalam kehidupan ini.”
“Kita tidak boleh kecewa bila keikhlasan kita dipersiakan?” tanya kakak itu lagi. Lebih kepada satu respons minta diiyakan.

“Kakak, ikhlas sebenar tidak pinta dibalas. Tetapi Allah Maha Kaya dan Maha Pengasih, siapa yang ikhlas akan diberi ganjaran walaupun mereka tidak memintanya kerana setiap kebaikan itu akan dikembalikan kepada orang yang melakukannya. Ia umpama bola yang dibaling ke dinding, akan melantun semula kepada pembalingnya!”
“Selalunya saya dengar, orang ikhlas akan dibalas di akhirat.”
“Itulah balasan yang lebih baik dan kekal. Tetapi saya katakan tadi, Allah Maha kaya, Allah mahu dan mampu membalas keikhlasan hamba-Nya di dunia lagi.”

“Maksud encik?”
“Orang yang ikhlas akan diberi ketenangan dan kebahagiaan dalam hidup. Anak-anak yang soleh dan solehah. Isteri yang taat atau suami yang setia. Dan paling penting… hati yang sejahtera. Inilah kekayaan dan kelebihan yang lebih utama daripada pangkat, gaji dan jawatan.”
“Jadi orang ikhlas akan terus ditindas, tidak dapat kenaikan pangkat atau gaji? Bukan apa, saya terfikir kenapa nasib kaki ampu dan kaki bodek lebih baik dalam organisasi. Mereka dapat naik pangkat!”

Giliran saya pula tersenyum.
“Tidak ada kebaikan yang akan kita dapat melalui jalan yang salah. Percayalah, kalau benar mereka kaki ampu dan bodek sahaja… pangkat yang mereka dapat akan menyebabkan mereka melarat. Gaji naik, tetapi ketenangan hati menurun. Ingat apa yang saya kata tadi, what you give you get back… Golden rule itu bukan untuk kebaikan sahaja, tetapi untuk kejahatan juga. Kalau kita berikan kejahatan, kejahatan itu akan kembali semula kepada kita. Kaki ampu, mungkin akan dapat anak yang pandai bermuka-muka. Kaki bodek mungkin dibalas dengan isteri yang berpura-pura!” terang saya panjang lebar.

“Jadi apa yang harus saya lakukan dengan baki masa perkhidmatan yang tinggal tidak beberapa bulan lagi ni?”
“Bekerjalah dengan gigih. Walaupun mungkin bos tidak melihatnya, tetapi Allah Maha Melihat. Bekerja itu satu ibadah. God is our “ceo”, kata orang sekarang. Insya-Allah, satu hari nanti manusia juga akan diperlihatkan oleh Allah tentang keikhlasan manusia yang lain. Jangan berhenti memberi kebaikan hanya kerana tidak dapat penghargaan…”
“Maksud encik?”

“Jangan mengharap terima kasih daripada manusia atas kebaikan yang kita buat kepadanya.”
“Kenapa?”
“Kita akan sakit jiwa!”
“Kenapa?”
“Kerana umumnya manusia tidak pandai berterima kasih. Lihatlah, kalau kepada Allah yang Maha Memberi pun manusia tidak pandai bersyukur dan berterima kasih, apalagi kepada manusia yang pemberiannya terbatas dan berkala. Sedikit sekali daripada manusia yang bersyukur,” balas saya mengulangi apa yang maktub dalam Al Quran.

“Tetapi Allah tidak berhenti memberi… “ kata kakak itu perlahan.
“Walaupun manusia tidak berterima kasih kepada-Nya. Sekalipun kepada yang derhaka dan kafir, tetapi Allah terus memberi… Justeru siapa kita yang tergamak berhenti memberi hanya kerana tidak mendapat penghargaan dan ucapan terima kasih?”
“Ah, kita terlalu ego…”

Dan itulah kesimpulan perbualan yang saya kira sangat bermakna dan besar impaknya dalam hidup saya. Saya terasa “diperingatkan” semasa memberi peringatan kerana pada hakikatnya saya juga tidak terlepas daripada lintasan hati oleh satu pertanyaan… orang ikhlas tertindas?.......petikan dari Genta Rasa.




Banyak sangat nikmat Allah yg kita tak nampak ngan mata kasar.
Dan kadang2 kita sbg manusia kita selalu lupa so;
"berpesan2 dgn kebenaran, berpesan2 ngan kesabaran" ;)
xcelli xtau sape penulis sebena artikel ni, as for me satu penulisan yg sgt baik;
penceritaan yg menarik & maksudnya jelas...
yg pasti email ni fwd to me from sopiyah.......tq py!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!